Relationships
are important to me because they motivate my every move. My husband and children are the reason for
which I do the things I do. I work a
full time job. I clean, cook, and do
laundry. I work very hard every day to
try to do the right thing, be a good person, and set a good example. I do these things because of the results that
they will have on the people that I love the most… my husband and
children. My relationships are also
important to me because these people love me in return and support me. My parents, my friends, my children, and my
husband are always there when I need them.
If I need a hug, encouragement, a kind word, a shoulder to cry on, or
even people to go an a beach vacation with… these people are there. They help me to not feel alone. They make me stronger because I know that
there are people that will always be on my side and who will have my back no
matter what.
My most positive relationships
are those that never come and go. My
relationship with my parents, my husband, and my children and the most
positive. These people never leave my
side. We may fight. We may annoy each other. We may say not so nice things to each other
on occaision. However, this never makes
us turn our back on one another. My
relationship with my parents, husband, and children all developed first from a
mutual need. We take care of each
other. We support each other. These relationships are maintained by love
and by supporting each other. These
realtionships are maintained by spending time together and enjoying each
other’s company. We share our lives with
each other in good times and in bad.
My friends are
also positive realtionships as long as things are good in the friendship. My friends give me someone to vent to,
someone to laugh with, and someone to hang out with when I need a break. My frienships develop by having a common
interest. For me this is usually by
working together or by my husband working with them or with their husbands. These realtionships are maintained by
spending time together and sharing informaiton with each other about our lives.
The biggest challenge that I have discovered about
realtionships over time is that once that common interest is gone, the
relationship rarely lasts. I don’t have
any friends that I went to high school with that are still in my life. I make friends with people at work, but once
I leave the job or they do, the realtionship gradually fades. My husband and I have had many “other couple”
friends over the years, but once the thing that we had in common, the thing
that brought us together, is gone, then so is the friendship. We have also had may friends over the years
that have become divorced. Once this
happens, the other couple each goes their own ways and our friendship with them
seems to have been lost in the divorce.
I have not really had much of a challenge over the years with
maintaining relationships with my parents, husband, or children. These people and I are forever bound and none
of us will ever leave the other.
However, maintaining and developing friendships seems to be very
challenging. It is hard to keep interest
in maintaining the friendship when there is no longer anything in common with
them. It is also hard to form new
friendships because I know that chances are that they won’t last.
I think that the thing that makes relationships also
be partnerships is having a common goal.
My husband and I have a partnership in addition to having a
relationship. We work hard together to
run our household. It is much like a
business. We want the maximum outcome
possible. Our profit is having happy,
healthy, and well equipped children. We
work together to keep our home safe and clean for them. We work together to run them to all of their
school events, to teach them to be good people, to help them with homework,
etc. My husband and I have a partnership
because we are a team working together towards a common goal.
Reflecting on my own relationships has helped me to
see how important relationships with families is to the development of each
child. My relationship with the families
is a partnership. We each want what is
best for the child and this common goal can bring us together to work as a team
for that child. In order to develop and
maintain this realtionship, I have to spend time with the families. I have to take the time to talk to them. To ask them questions about their live and
the things that are going on, even outside of the child. I should know more about them than just their
name and which child belongs to them. By
becoming a partner with them and by developing an actual realtionship with
them, they can the trust that I am there for the same exact reason that they
are, and this reason is because we both want what is best for their child. That is our common goal… to see their child
be successful.